*insert a witty title related to the marriage referendum here*

I’m trying to understand things from a ‘no’ point of view. Like when I ask my sister for a lift to town and she refuses. Or when my younger sisters ask if they can give me a makeover and I give them an incredulous look that shoots down any hope they had of making me look pretty. Or when a group of people in Ireland ask if they can have a few rights and half the country is outraged and basically says that that’s asking a bit too much.

One of my favourite things to do is debate with people about different topics (sometimes I get so passionate that I’ll argue with people who are on my side) and so I’m going to try argue as best I can why you should vote yes.

“Let’s not redefine marriage”

Well…we’re not.


Like, ok, I see where you’re coming from, the whole man and woman thing, but hey check out what’s written in brackets in that definition. “In some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex”. We’re not redefining marriage because it’s already recognised that the LGBT community can get married. The only problem here is that Ireland isn’t one of those jurisdictions (yet) because some of you have got yourself in a mess over what the dictionary says. Do you know what else is in the dictionary? The word twerk. Let’s tackle the real problems here people.

“A child deserves a mother and a father.”
This argument is just downright disrespectful. I was lucky enough to grow up in a home with a mother and a father, but I know people who come from single parent homes. Despite what the no side will have us believe, people who have only a mother or only a father can (shocker) be decent people. There’s honestly nothing else I can say to this argument except it was a low blow not just to same sex couples, but to hundreds of families all over Ireland.

“A child needs her mother for life, not just 9 months.”
Can you hear that? It’s the sound of privilege again. Congratulations on having a mother who was able to give birth to you herself. Now let’s stop stripping the dignity away from families who have had to use surrogacy.

“It’s not natural.”
Do you know what else isn’t natural? The smell my dad sometimes leave behind in the bathroom but I fucking deal with it.

“Won’t someone please think of the children?!”
Yeah let’s take a moment and think about the children. You know what it means for people like me? It means I’ll still be able to get married, just the same as before. You know what it means for the LGBT community? It means young kids who are discovering they’re gay will see that they’re being valued. They’re not being treated any differently to their straight counterpart and you know what that’s gonna do? That’s gonna make them feel like they matter. God forbid someone feel like they matter.

You see, May 22nd is an important day for everyone in this country. If the yes vote passes, that means I won’t have to sit my kids down in the future and apologise on behalf of my generation and the generation before me for not believing they deserve to be married should they be gay. It means I won’t have to apologise to my gay friends for the fact that they’re not being valued and recognised in the same way I am by the constitution. It means equality matters.

So on May 22nd, don’t be a dick.